We've written many articles geared towards men dealing with ED. But if you're searching Google for "my partner has erectile dysfunction - what should I do?" . . . well, this article is for you. Here's how you can help a partner who is dealing with ED.
As with all content on Greater Boston Urology's blog, the following information is educational in nature, not medical advice. Always talk to your physician about your specific health care questions concerning erectile dysfunction.
[Editor's note: This article was reviewed and updated on 9/20/21.]
- Encourage him to seek treatment. Sometimes the hardest thing can be making the initial call to a urologist. But it will be life-changing, for the better. Make the call.
- Communicate, communicate, communicate. Erectile dysfunction can be an extremely sensitive subject to discuss, yet communication is critical for partners as they navigate the condition together. Talk to each other. If talking is too hard at first, consider having each person write down what they’re experiencing and sharing it with the other person. Sometimes reading and responding that way allows emotions to calm down and can help create the bridge to verbal communication.
- Don’t give up if one treatment doesn’t work. Most people have heard of medications, like Cialis and Viagra, but there are several other treatment options available, including injections, pumps, and penile implant options.
- Practice patience. ED can cause a variety of emotions and feelings to flare. And it can take time for people to find the right treatment that works for them. Patience (on both people’s parts) can go a long way in helping to make the journey smoother.
- Take care of yourself. It’s understandable that the focus will be on your partner as he deals with ED, but that doesn’t mean you should ignore your own emotions and needs. Talking to someone you can trust, like a close friend or a therapist, can help you process your own feelings, fears, and so forth.
At Greater Boston Urology, we have over 15 board-certified urologists who are ready to help you or someone you love deal with ED. Schedule an appointment now.